As conscious adults, it is imperative that we are both tough and tender. While the majority of us succeed at one or the other by default, the challenge is being able to balance the two, depending on the situation and what would be most beneficial. Children are sensitive, scared innocent little people. They need certain essentials to learn how to be resilient, how to care for others, and how to turn failure into triumph. Positive self-esteem starts with positive
influences, whether it be a parent, teacher, grandparent or older siblings. Children learn by observation and interaction. Regardless of a child’s age, it is imperative that they receive positive, uplifting words from their inner circle.

1. “I love you.”
– A child could have a million toys but nothing can ever top the love received. Reassuring a child of your love for them lets them know they are valuable. These affirmations include love; promotes courage, healing, and brings joy.

2. “I believe in you.”
– It is important for children to know that you believe in them. Knowing that they have a strong support system
equips them to accomplish their goals and dreams.

3. “I’m so proud of you.”
– Children need a surplus of affirmations and validations in order to develop a healthy sense of self. Children crave
support and blessings, and direct most of their behaviors towards gaining your approval, love and acceptance.

4. “I’m sorry.”
When you admit your mistakes to your children, you show them you are compassionate and empathetic. Being
transparent shows them that no one is perfect.

5. “ I’m listening”
– It is incredibly important to listen to your children so they know that you are interested in what they have to say.
Through listening, you learn about who your children are on the inside. It connects you to their inner world and
facilitates a sense of value.

6. “NO”
– Sometimes the most loving and caring thing you can tell a child is NO. While children can always effectively
communicate the need for rules and boundaries, they know “NO” means you are alert and present. Rest assured, they will not always appreciate hearing it at the moment but years later they will circle back and appreciate your clear boundaries. By saying NO to the wrong things, it allows us to say YES to the right things.